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Number 10
Letting things go
One of the most common ways guys blow it is by letting standards slide. You made all the effort to get the girl, then you took your eyes off the game. Now that all the hard work's over, it's OK to put on a little extra weight, right? Maybe you don't make as much effort with nice clothes because you don't have to impress her any more. Well, you're wrong. This kind of behavior sends out the message that you think she has low standards -- and she will not be happy about that. Keep on top of things and make sure you look like the kind of guy she should be with, instead of falling into one of the ways guys blow it in relationships.
Number 9
Playing a character
If your relationship is going anywhere, you have to be yourself. When you're first getting to know someone, it's tempting to say what you think they want to hear, just to make things run a little smoother. Trying to impress her by faking or exaggerating parts of your life and personality might reap short-term rewards, but eventually it'll all come crashing down around you, which is why this is precisely one of the ways guys blow it. Sure, make your job sound a little more interesting than it is -- that's fine. However, pretending you're a high-flying entrepreneur to impress your girl just isn't right.
Number 8
Being stuck in the past
As the old expression goes, pasts are like assholes: everybody has one and it usually stinks. Up to now, every relationship you've had has failed. From broken hearts to broken egos, you've done it all. However, that was then and this is now. Leave the past where it belongs and start working on the future before you succumb to one of the biggest ways guys blow it. The same goes for her past. Don't judge her by what she's already done or try to keep up with the wild times she's had. Keep your pasts as memories and start making some new memories together.
Number 7
Too serious, too fast
You like her. You really, really like her. It's only been a few weeks, but you think you should call and say you love her. You also think you should call her more than once -- just so she gets the message. Maybe you even want to move in together. Why not take some of your stuff over to her place, right this second? On the way, there's that nice little jewelry store, go pick up a ring. If you start organizing it now, you could be down the aisle in no time at all and have the perfect summer wedding -- and then children! Has she thought of any names yet, because we bet you have? I think you understand why this approach is one of the sure-fire ways guys blow it.
Number 6
Persisting in playing dating games
The old story of boy-meets-girl, they like each other and live happily ever after just doesn't work today. Somewhere along the line, dating got a whole lot more complicated. However, one of the biggest ways guys blow it is by playing dating games that eventually blow the whole relationship out of the water. Sure, curbing your enthusiasm is a good thing, however, waiting a week to call, canceling and rescheduling dates, and generally playing hard to get can often cause just as many problems. Believe us, enough of this behavior will have her bored at waiting around, and that's when someone with a more direct approach just sweeps right in and steals her away.
Number 5
Not showing enough attention
Dates don't just organize themselves and relationships don't spring from nothing. You might think that if you hang back and play it cool she'll come to you. Well, this is one of the major ways guys blow it. Most of the time, you're going to have to make the first move and let her know that you're interested. Not showing enough attention can blow your chances before anything even happens, because if she's debating whether or not you like her, she's not going to want to waste her time with the effort of the unknown. Moral of the lesson here: You can either let her know you're interested or watch as she leaves with the guy who didn't blow it and showed enough attention to her.
Number 4
Closing her off
There's little point in pursuing a relationship, only to keep her locked out of the rest of your life entirely. Yet some guys do this, and it's one of the ways guys blow it. They might have found the perfect woman, but, for whatever reason, choose to keep her entirely separate from the rest of their lives. She never meets his buddies, work colleagues begin to think she's imaginary and she's always strangely absent from family events. It might take a while, but this situation will blow the relationship to bits. If she's decided to be with you, then it's about wanting more than just your great looks and sparkling personality; chances are, she actually wants to hear the embarrassing stories your friends tell, meet that annoying workmate and see all those baby pictures your mom's been storing for just such an occasion.
Number 3
Not taking charge
The only good thing ballroom dancing gave the world is this lesson: The man should lead. You'll often find that women try to dominate a relationship by laying down rules and setting boundaries. Letting her get away with this is a big mistake. As much as she thinks she wants a man to follow her every command, in the long run she won't respect you for it. If you're any kind of man, you won't respect yourself either. If you think she's playing dating games to gain some kind of power, call her on it straight away.
Number 2
Smothering her
One of the first things you should do is dispel the myth that the man has to constantly give the girl all his attention. Flooding her with phone calls, flowers and giving her endless reasons why she's amazing won't win her heart, only her disgust. Eventually, she'll tire of feeling like the object of your obsession. By all means, be romantic and make sure you treat her well. However, if she wanted a creature that followed her around giving her undivided attention, she'd have bought a Chihuahua. Put yourself first for a change and she'll respect you more for it.
Number 1
Staying in relationship limbo
The quickest, easiest and guaranteed way to blow it is to be in a relationship that isn't going anywhere. You might think that you're taking things steady and not being overeager, but if after six months you're stuck doing dinner and a movie and still don't know her mother's name, something isn't going right. At this point, it's only a matter of time before she starts looking for a guy to have a future with. Not that a relationship has to proceed in line with a timetable, far from it. It should always be moving forward, with the two of you sharing new experiences and learning more about each other. If you want things to work, she has to know that this is more than just something to fill up your spare time, that it's something real.
maneuver the minefield
So, love is a minefield. As we've shown, the key to making it across in one piece is a good sense of balance. Fall too far in either direction and you'll blow it.
The best you can do is tread carefully, watch out for the obvious dangers and pray you don't step on exposed relationship detonators.
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